DREAD OF THE DATE

            It happens every year.  It begins at Christmas and picks up speed when the New Year begins.  Off in the distance, I can see it coming…like the sail of a ship that is nearing the shore for the annual visit. Ignoring it doesn’t work.  With each passing day I...

OUR LAST CHRISTMAS TOGETHER

  I remember it very well. The year was 1990 and we were all together on Christmas eve. Buelah had prepared a special menu and the table set with her finest china, complete with a centerpiece that featured red candles. Our son’s eyes reflected the flickering candle...

SECONDARY LOSSES

A few days ago, we arrived home from Orlando where we attended the annual TCF (The Compassionate Friends) conference along with other bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings from all over the world.   Buelah and I led two workshops and served on another, a panel...

SIGNS OF THAWING OUT

Next week, my wife and I will gather with several hundred bereaved parents in Orlando, Florida for the annual TCF, “The Compassionate Friends” conference.  We have been asked to serve on a panel with other bereaved parents. The theme:“As We Begin to Thaw.”  Dave and...

REMEMBERED AT COMMENCEMENTS

A few years ago, my wife and I met Dave & Lora Krum. They had just lost their older son, Dylan at age 14. Then, barely two years later, their younger son, Gavin also died. These two young boys were their only children. I have asked Lora to be my guest for this...