OUR LAST CHRISTMAS TOGETHER

  I remember it very well. The year was 1990 and we were all together on Christmas eve. Buelah had prepared a special menu and the table set with her finest china, complete with a centerpiece that featured red candles. Our son’s eyes reflected the flickering candle...

SECONDARY LOSSES

A few days ago, we arrived home from Orlando where we attended the annual TCF (The Compassionate Friends) conference along with other bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings from all over the world.   Buelah and I led two workshops and served on another, a panel...

SIGNS OF THAWING OUT

Next week, my wife and I will gather with several hundred bereaved parents in Orlando, Florida for the annual TCF, “The Compassionate Friends” conference.  We have been asked to serve on a panel with other bereaved parents. The theme:“As We Begin to Thaw.”  Dave and...

REMEMBERED AT COMMENCEMENTS

A few years ago, my wife and I met Dave & Lora Krum. They had just lost their older son, Dylan at age 14. Then, barely two years later, their younger son, Gavin also died. These two young boys were their only children. I have asked Lora to be my guest for this...

RE-MEMBERING

My wife and I entered the wedding venue and were quickly ushered to our seats. Groom’s side. It was almost time to begin when I noticed something very unusual. Standing at the front of the wedding chapel and just to the right of center stood an easel…nothing on...

Sitter In The Cemetery

Picking up the phone, I heard the voice from another dad who had lost a child. He lived hundreds of miles away but identified with me. He had served as an associate pastor for several years but had also, like me, lost a  child, a little daughter who was only three...